Welcome to Somebody (Un)Training: Learning to Be Whole Again

Written By natalie brite

A New Space for Self-Discovery

Welcome to Somebody (Un)Training, a space to loosen the grip of who we thought we had to be and reclaim the freedom that’s been ours all along.

Hi, I’m Mollie: mom, wife, perpetual student, anxious overthinker, compulsive overachiever, seeker, recovering bulimic, and fellow human in a meat suit in the dumpster fire that is 2025.

This space was born out of a deep desire to have more real conversations about what it means to be human— to explore the messiness, the contradictions, and the brilliance of our inner worlds.

From Therapist to Coach: Choosing Authenticity Over Perfection

I’m a Clinical Life Coach, a title I invented back in 2017 when I pivoted from being a therapist to a coach.

Why the shift? Because I wanted to work with people differently — more directly, more playfully, and with more truth than the confines of therapy allowed.

I wanted the freedom to say things like, “Can you PLEASE stop going to your shame as though it has any credibility?”

I wanted to tell clients what I actually thought about their relationships, challenge their fears with critical thinking, and be a full human in the process, not a blank slate.

Therapy is for healing. Coaching, on the other hand, is for disruptive evolution, and I serve that process best when I can color outside the lines.

Reframing the Human Experience

Over time, I noticed how often the therapy world aligned with our cultural obsession with self-optimization.
Every client I saw believed they were a problem to solve, that freedom meant fixing their anxiety, silencing their inner critic, or erasing their anger.

But the more inner work I did, meditation, self-inquiry, spiritual practice, the less I bought into the idea that we are broken.

What if our work here isn’t about changing the cards we were dealt, but learning to play them well?
What if freedom comes not from erasing our story, but from creating with it?

What. The. Fuck. If?

The Human Curriculum

I don’t coach as an expert on the human experience; I coach as a student of it, a dedicated one.

The human curriculum is what we’re all enrolled in: learning to sit with our feelings, navigate relationships, trust ourselves, and listen to something deeper than the noise in our heads.

The only difference between me and my clients is perspective; I have enough distance from their stories to see clearly. My role isn’t to lecture from a pedestal but to sit at the desk next to theirs, sharing what I’ve learned from this shared classroom of life.

Writing as a Practice of Freedom

I started writing on Substack as an extension of my coaching work, to explore the human curriculum in a space that allows for depth, paradox, and play.

Social media, while powerful, often demands simplicity at the expense of nuance. Over time, I realized I’d trained myself to think in soundbites. The dopamine hits of “viral wisdom” dulled my long-form voice.

Now, I’m reclaiming that voice. I’m (mostly) not here to rail against the struggles of motherhood, though I could. I’m here to practice writing again, because I have a book deal (!!!) and I need to show up and write the damn thing.

The book, coming in 2027, explores how and why we confuse thoughts for feelings, and how to make peace with the emotions we spend so much time avoiding: anxiety, anger, and fear.

Somebody Training: The Art of Unlearning

The concept behind Somebody (Un)Training comes from a story told by Ram Dass.

When we’re born, we begin “Somebody Training.” We learn who to be: the achiever, the helper, the funny one, the caretaker… to earn love and belonging.

But eventually, every one of those identities goes bankrupt. The strategies that once kept us safe start to limit us.

Our work, then, is untraining, letting go of the “Somebody” we thought we had to be, and remembering that we are all things.

Messy. Contradictory. Brilliant. Whole.

Join Me in This Work

If you’re here, you’re probably curious about how to create more freedom within your own mind and life. That’s exactly what Somebody (Un)Training explores: reflections, tools, and practices to help you meet yourself as you are.

Come along. Let’s learn to loosen the grip of who we thought we had to be and come home to ourselves.

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About Mollie Birney

Mollie Birney is a Clinical Life Coach, former therapist, and devoted student of the human condition. Her work bridges psychology, coaching, and spirituality to help people make their minds a safer place to live. Through her programs, writing, and community gatherings, she guides clients toward freedom from their internal noise — one honest conversation at a time.

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