Why Waiting for Rescue Fails, and How to Change Your Relationship With Your Inner Critic
If you’ve done therapy, read the books, and still struggle with a loud inner critic, you’re not failing. This essay explores why negative self-talk doesn’t disappear… and what actually brings relief.
The Problem With Affirmations: When Positive Thinking Turns Into Self-Abandonment
Why affirmations don’t work for everyone, and how forced positivity can erode self-trust. A nervous-system-based approach to real healing.
How to Repair After a Fight With Your Partner
Learn how to repair after a fight with your partner using real-life tools for conflict, reconnection, and building “same team” energy. In this piece, I share a real argument from my own marriage (yes, it involves lasagna and carrots) and the simple phrase that helped us pause, repair, and remember we were on the same team.
If you’ve ever wondered how to repair after a fight with your partner, how to come back together after conflict, or why the strongest relationships aren’t conflict-free — this one’s for you.
Patience Isn’t Penance
Patience is often praised as a virtue — but what if enduring the wrong things is actually a form of self-abandonment? This reflection explores the difference between true patience and emotional over-tolerance, offering a grounded perspective on boundaries, discernment, and what genuinely deserves your time and energy.
How Healthy Couples Repair After Conflict
Learn why conflict is normal in healthy relationships — and how to repair after a fight using emotional validation, nervous-system awareness, and better communication skills. A real relationship example from Clinical Coach Mollie Birney.
What We Get Wrong About Letting Go: How to Stop Overthinking & Change Your Thought Patterns
Learn what “letting go” really means from Clinical Coach Mollie Birney. Discover a practical, compassionate approach to letting go of negative thoughts, emotional spirals, and mental loops—without suppressing your feelings.
The Meaning I Made: Finding My Part in What Wasn’t My Fault
Discover how understanding the meaning we make from our past can free us from shame and trauma. Clinical Coach Mollie Birney shares a powerful story about redefining healing, finding agency, and changing the narratives that keep us stuck.
From Somebody to Nobody: Reclaiming the Freedom of Being Whole
Learn how the identities we build to feel loved can become the cages that limit our freedom — and how to rediscover your authentic self by letting go of performance and returning to wholeness. Written by Clinical Coach Mollie Birney.
Welcome to Somebody (Un)Training: Learning to Be Whole Again
Welcome to Somebody (Un)Training — a space to loosen the grip of who we thought we had to be and reclaim the freedom that’s been ours all along.
Hi, I’m Mollie — mom, wife, perpetual student, anxious overthinker, compulsive overachiever, seeker, recovering bulimic, and fellow human in a meat suit in the dumpster fire that is 2025.
This space was born out of a deep desire to have more real conversations about what it means to be human — to explore the messiness, the contradictions, and the brilliance of our inner worlds.